I assumed they laughed at her because she actually IS that desperate but in denial about it.
That’s when you go “Oh Okay, I can see why your single” and walk away like a boss
Hey Anon, you did great!
In this situation, as in many in life, Judo rules apply: Go with the punch, don’t push against it.
This was a win, you just need to recognize it as that.- you proved yourself that you have lots of courage
- you were not a creep when talking to a stranger
- you dodged a bullet with that woman.
- you tried something new. (might not have worked out at the first try, but can’t really expect to be that lucky)
keep it up, don’t lose heart, you’ll find your match.
Great comment, cold approaching in any situation can be intimidating but at the end of the day the worst that can happen is they say “no”. And then you can go home and get high or drunk or whatever and not care. Each rejection hurts a little less each time.
I mean, better solution is to go hang with your friends and commiserate. Which, imo, is always something dating advice seems to avoid talking about. Dating is hard. Having a solid social support system to pick you back up again is crucial.
Worst she can do is say “no”
I went to a bar, stalked a woman and had to bite my tongue to avoid saying m’lady when I asked her out. I can’t imagine why she said no.
People who frequent bars are shitty people
Haha, yeah, totally, people hanging out in public and enjoying a beverage in an adults-only environment are bad! The real stars are the neckbeard losers whining about what other people do for fun.
The fuck are you talking about? OP is in a bar trying to pickup chicks like it’s 1970.
Bars are where old losers hang out who never made their own friends. It’s like the boomers’ version of the people who only use dating apps for validation.
Nah but for real if some random stranger at a bar overheard me saying I’m single and then came up to me and my friends like that I would be a little creeped out too.
I wouldn’t be mean about it, but I definitely wouldn’t say yes.
Not even if I was a two headed Brad Pitt with the body of the strongest Chris?
Impossible. It’s the females!
*insert Skinner meme*
This is definitely one of those ‘creepy if ugly’ moments. If he was a handsome guy, it would be romantic and has almost definitely happened in a million Hallmark movies.
You are probably not wrong, super attractive people can get away with cringy things. Wouldn’t be a good strategy for an average looking person, however.
“Hello, Human Resources??”
Listening in on conversations is creepy, no matter how good-looking a person is.
And that stuff happens in movies doesn’t mean it isn’t creepy in real-life.
Handsome/Ugly is in the eye of the person, remember. Just because one person found you not attractive, doesn’t mean they all do.
Fuck Hallmark movies, Don’t make me vomit
Of course everyone is entitled to have their own opinion of what is beautiful. But there are some pretty obvious statistical convergences.
Sure, but personally, I don’t give a fuck about that. I don’t find conventionally attractive people, good looking. They don’t do it for me. And If I, just one person feels this way, and I’ve met other’s like this too, there must be more.
Just tryin to put that beacon of hope out.
If he was handsome it would still be creepy
It’s not so much creepy if ugly, so much as creepy if not confident.
And the way to become confident in something is to do it a bunch of times.
Lesson being, it’s okay if someone thinks you’re creepy. You’re just in the process of developing a new skill.
I can’t imagine why no one would want her with that shining personality
Fake: Anon left the house
Gay: Anon was a girl this whole time
Thats why she cant find a man! Lesson here dont approach women that say “they cant find a man” there is a reason they cant find a man and you should believe her. What you did was courageous and this shouldn’t stop you from trying in the future.
Or she’s just unlucky. Or has some other understandable and solveable problem in her life. Lesson is, just approach anyone you find hot. If they reject you, that’s fine. If you find you don’t like them and reject them later, that’s fine too. Most people aren’t “bad”, and rejection isn’t bad either - it is simply the process by which people figure out who they are compatible with. It sure doesn’t feel good - but the one thing that is sure to stunt your progress in finding partners is avoiding things that are uncomfortable
Thats why she cant find a man!
I read about a guy on a website who just trolled bars for hours at a time, eavesdropping on every conversation between anyone he considered remotely attractive. At the slightest hint of desperation, he would run up to a table and announce “I am a single man! Please date me! I will feed you dinner and then we can be together!”
He is the most successful anon in history. Goes on dates every single day of his life. Little black book contains hundreds of phone numbers from women desperate for a second chance at him. But he doesn’t stop. One Date Only, that’s his policy. He’s just too much of a hot commodity to deprive the rest of the Femoid Race of his charms.
This is the real reason OP’s story is about a woman who is single.
Is he called Ataru Moroboshi by any chance? Xd
Lesson here: definitely take away life lessons from a greentext
Reminds me of the guy who dmed me that he wanted to touch my boobs in broken english. I made fun of him so hard that he started calling me “mean” and stopped texting me
What if I DM you in perfect English?
Ehh that is not why I meant fun of him
Many such cases.
In what ways did you make fun of him?
About wanting to touch my boobs and the manner he insisted
Right, I was hoping more specificity for the lolz. It’s fine if you don’t want to share though, no pressure. 🙇♂️
Did he say Bob and Vegane?
The comments on here make me glad I’m aromantic.
Yeah. It turns out a bunch of tech obsessed nerds aren’t the most socially well adjusted.
Reddit is even better than this.
I misread that as aromatic and was quite confused.
Look, I might be a bit aromatic sometimes, but no, that’s not what I meant.
They reproduce by spreading spores like Rob Lowe’s character on The Orville
As a lesbian leaning pansexual, I keep asking the question “are straights okay”
No, they are not. (As a straight person by most definitions probably)
If I linked to the data showing that f/f couples have higher domestic violence than either m/f or m/m couples and then said ‘I keep asking “are lesbians okay”’, would you not think that a callous and insensitive thing to say, implying that it’s majority or typical behavior for lesbians?
I know the study you mean and you’re misrepresenting it. It asks people who identify as lesbian whether they have experienced domestic abuse at all, and concludes they’re more likely to answer ‘yes’ than straight women.
But that alone doesnt say who is doing the abuse. Remember lesbians often date men before coming out. When asking whether the perpetrator was male or female and separating the data, the stats shifted. Lesbians experienced less DV from their female partners than straight women do from their male ones.
Women are also capable of abuse of course, but a large amount of the DV lesbians received was still from men.
I am a straight and look how not okay I am
Then I would tell you you’re not original, we’ve all seen that “data” and it doesn’t say what you think it says so you can’t read. I’d also remind you reactions like that are why you’re single.
Marginalized groups have no problem acting in the exact way they expect others not to about them.
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I enjoy working and making things. I find being intellectually stimulated almost as satisfying as being happy or anything else. You have absolutely no idea how much of a super power being an aromatic asexual would be for me. I’d be unstoppable, lol.
I think I know what you’re getting at, I wouldn’t necessarily call myself asexual though, as I do watch… naughty things (I’m too lazy to look up rules, I’m not shy in that respect) I just waste a lot of time getting informed on politics instead, so no guarantees for more free time😉
Welcome to being Greysexual, my friend!
That does make you on the asexual spectrum. You ARE asexual.
I would tend to agree, I’m just not really interested in discussion definitions and I think argueing I’m not aromantic is hard (except for my family of course).
Does that mean you get turned on by smelly stuff?
No that’s automatic. They mean antioxidant.
Fake: anon approached a girl
Gay: anon was daydreaming for 3 hours about getting engaged
I mean, considering there’s a 100% chance this is just a fantasy in anon’s head I’d say she dodged a bullet.
What makes you think that the girl is even real?
What makes you think that girls are even real?
First the birds, then the girls?
Everyone on the internet is either a man or a dog.
not true, some of us are cats
** Meow **
You son of a removed, I’m in.
woof
Nice try. We know you’re a frog!
Well, I’m taking estrogen, so they’re about to become real
If you can’t get a big tiddy goth gf, become the big tiddy goth gf.
Hmmm… I remember an old lesson from the ancient times of the Internet, now long forgotten:
“Girl” is an acronym for “Guy In Real Life”.
Checkmate; girls are a social construct!
What makes you think?
Tits or gtfo
Well played
Chatbots would have strung him along for at least the subscription fee.
