It’s the complete opposite for me
I’m relatively healthy, while both of my parents are obese (they still tell me I’m not being healthy enough btw)
So yeah that’s why
I look at my mom for motivation on health. Doing the opposite and I feel great.
thank god you self censored, else id be exposed to the word “fuck”. none of the adults here would be happy with such humongous profanity. i’m glad we are advertiser-friendly here.
I mean, this phenomenon makes total sense to me.
The problem with most parents in the modern world is that they aren’t happy. They and their kids have everything that is nominally necessary to be satisfied in life - food, shelter, etc. - but the parents arent happy, and often the kids arent happy either. This has two results.
Parents are stressed out and time crunched. The combined obligations of work and family leave them with little time for normal adult social interactions. They feel out of control of their lives. This makes them want more control at home, which drives an authoritarian attitude. While any given instruction they give to their child may be for the child’s benefit, the meta command (either implicit or overt) is to obey their authority unquestioningly. This drives resentment in their children, who will then rebel and disobey instructions out of spite, rather than out of disagreement.
Meanwhile, the children can see their parents are unhappy. So why would the children listen to their parents? After all, simply being happy tends to be the goal of pretty much everyone - so why would you listen to people who arent happy, if your goal is to be happy? Like, if a homeless guy tells you to invest in Bitcoin, thats not very sound investment advice. And even if their parents are happy, they often do not empathize with their childrens’ problems, values, or goals. When a 13 year old dreams of being a pop star, she will only resent her parents advice to get a college degree in accounting.
So flash forward 10 years. The kid has ignored everything their parents taught them and fallen flat on their face. And then they run into some content from Marcus Aurelius or Jordan Peterson or whatever. It is the same shit their parents told them. The difference is the messenger. It is someone who at least appears to be confident and happy and successful, who is apparently giving out their advice out of a desire to help people. They acknowledge people’s struggles, ambitions, and values, and explain how whatever advice they have will help overcome these struggles, achieve these ambitions, and live these values. They are functioning as the parents people wish they had had.
Experience with my own kids. Tell them something that will improve their life. They don’t listen.
Hear it from a friend or youtube streamer? Its now law with them. This is the way of things.
The only viable solution: become YouTube streamer.
Nooo. First leave your family, then become a YouTube streamer to teach your kids.
My Dad does this and its more cringe, especially because its abt his cult religion. Its been 15 years, he is still doing it and he only has a handful of followers.
I’d drink to more context to this story
My parents hate gay people and I’m a flaming homosexual. We have had so many fights over the past 6 years I’ve been out. My Dad thinks he is intelligent and well spoken while he ia saying the most sexist things. His video streams are 99% of the time with this christian deacon that is a part of his cult saying that gay marriage is a sin and women should be child caretakers, while my mom is making 3x his salary as an engineer. They both come off smart on the outside but it crumbles when you hear they’re awful opinions like “the rich deserve to get richer” smh. If I tell you his domination he should be the first YouTube result
Do is I say, not as I do.
That one popped in my mind.
Hope you are doing good regardless of the opinion of your father.
That abt sums it up! I have had good and bad years, I just got divorced at 25, still debating if this year is bad or good
Does not work, children always do that with their parents.
… with a mask and using a pseudonym
I find the approach really matters. Though I am not going to say my kids agree with everything I say ti them, they at least listen.
