A lack of feeling is also a kind of weakness - usually it’s due to long-term suppression of emotion and leaves you out of touch with your inner self. Bottled up emotions tend to be rather damaging in the long term. Plus, you don’t just lose out on the hurtful/bad emotions.
Acknowledging and overcoming negative feelings takes more strength than simply ignoring them.
I think you’re misunderstanding/I’m not explaining well.
Accessing emotions is hard for a lot of us because we’ve been trained to clam up. But without that external factor, it wouldn’t be.
But when we do actually do it, it now takes effort and strength when it probably shouldn’t.
But the physical loss of control when, for example, crying, makes us physically vulnerable as well as emotionally.
I can see why times in history, having v people be scared and breaking down would jeopardize themselves or others. But we’ve magnified that, or lost the nuance.
Crying or raging or withdrawing in camp is safe, on a hunt or while driving a truck is the exception not the rule.
I wonder if this is a modern human problem or just a human problem
Maybe. In my experience showing certain emotions as a man at all can be ridiculed or seen as weakness - which is what I was referring to in my comment.
Allowing yourself (as you say) to be overwhelmed by emotion can definitely leave you weak/physically vulnerable - but the weakness here is not the emotions themselves but rather the lack of control.
I disagree.
A lack of feeling is also a kind of weakness - usually it’s due to long-term suppression of emotion and leaves you out of touch with your inner self. Bottled up emotions tend to be rather damaging in the long term. Plus, you don’t just lose out on the hurtful/bad emotions.
Acknowledging and overcoming negative feelings takes more strength than simply ignoring them.
I think you’re misunderstanding/I’m not explaining well.
Accessing emotions is hard for a lot of us because we’ve been trained to clam up. But without that external factor, it wouldn’t be.
But when we do actually do it, it now takes effort and strength when it probably shouldn’t.
But the physical loss of control when, for example, crying, makes us physically vulnerable as well as emotionally.
I can see why times in history, having v people be scared and breaking down would jeopardize themselves or others. But we’ve magnified that, or lost the nuance.
Crying or raging or withdrawing in camp is safe, on a hunt or while driving a truck is the exception not the rule.
I wonder if this is a modern human problem or just a human problem
Maybe. In my experience showing certain emotions as a man at all can be ridiculed or seen as weakness - which is what I was referring to in my comment.
Allowing yourself (as you say) to be overwhelmed by emotion can definitely leave you weak/physically vulnerable - but the weakness here is not the emotions themselves but rather the lack of control.