dandelion (she/her)

men?

oh my god

agreed, the app is not defensible, but a lot of men are enjoying and justifying the doxxing of the women users of the app as justice served, and I think that’s abhorrent

one in three is only sexual and physical violence from an intimate partner, your one in nine stat includes sexual harassment, the stat is even higher for women if you include sexual harassment:

https://interactive.unwomen.org/multimedia/infographic/violenceagainstwomen/en/index.html

it’s not clear to me the sexual violence one in nine men experience are primarily caused by women, either - LGBT+ men such as trans men are at much higher risk of domestic and sexual violence …

are men concerned for their safety dating women? Has one in three men experienced sexual or physical violence at the hands of their female partners?

Every summer, the neighborhood throws its own smaller-scale LGBTQ+ Pride event separate from the city’s main annual parade taking place this weekend.

It’s just one of more than 200 Pride events taking place in Germany this year.

17 anti-LGBT protests against over 200 Pride events, in case anyone is looking for a “silver lining” to this story. 😊

Tea is marketed as a “dating safety tool” for women, and it pledges to donate ten percent of its revenue to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. …

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The app enables the photos to be run through a reverse image search, enabling them to run a basic background check, check against public sex offender databases, and check for photos that might get flagged as being used in “catfishing” — misrepresenting one’s identity online.

The app also features a “Tea Party Group Chat,” which allows users to directly share information about men, and has a rating function, which allows users to share their experiences with Yelp-style reviews, awarding men a “green flag” or a “red flag.”

https://www.cnn.com/2025/07/25/us/tea-app-dating-privacy-cec

we seem to be popular with reddit users that were banned from reddit, which on average seems to translate to less than wholesome behavior - so maybe lemmy’s whole reddit-alternative branding works against us that way.

maybe developing a distinct UI so it’s not just a reddit clone, and directing features in a way that is appealing more to particular communities or people we wish to attract would be a good idea, rather than trying to directly replace reddit as a whole?

for example, attracting academics by supporting built-in LaTeX syntax rather than requiring a browser extension

I am not sure that’s true, language can absolutely be misused, when an individual uses a word in a way nobody recognizes, it fails to function as language and is worth considering genuinely misused. It’s only when a “misuse” gains enough traction that people can effectively use it to communicate that it is an evolution rather than a misuse.

The point is that the language is about use, e.g. getting a concept across, and it can absolutely fail or be applied incorrectly.

Take for example if a variety of mugs are on a table and I wanted the red mug. If I said “pass me the green mug”, that would be a misuse of “green” as meaning red, and it would fail to communicate, as long as there are other mugs and my meaning cannot be inferred.

If there is clearly only one mug, a person might think I was mistaken or colorblind and still get my intended meaning, but it would still be considered a misuse of “green”.

If enough people used “green” to mean red, maybe because my family thought the mistake was funny and adopted “green” to mean red as an in-joke, it might grow out of being a misuse into a new meaning.

The same thing is happening when white children misuse AAVE and generate slang, “gyatt” for example meaning “god” as in “gyatt damn” becomes mistakenly applied to mean a butt because of misunderstanding about how gyatt was originally used. The misuse becomes new slang, but it could have easily remained an obscure and forgotten misuse if it didn’t catch-on with enough people such that it took on a new meaning.

Honestly lots of Western Europe, but personally: Iceland, Germany, Finland, Denmark, Sweden, Netherlands, Belgium, etc.

Objectively places like Spain, Portugal, Malta, etc. would work.

I have no delusions of ever making it as an immigrant in any of these countries. You need a lot of money.