My life-goal I set for myself in 4th grade was “be a better father than my dad or step-father”. Life handed my wife and I twins, right off the bat, and our second son less than two years later. I made more money and worked far fewer hours, so suffice to say I changed thousands of daipers and mixed/warmed sooo much formula.
Somehow, my wife and I did far less partying after she got a better job and the kids were in school, and she locked in on the idea of your comment versus any adult life outside of work and chores like some sort of core belief.
End of the day, I realized I had set and basically stepped ON(as opposed to having to jump over) an incredibly low bar for myself, and it was more like my life began when I had cleared it, but “raising a family” has been a surprisingly lonely experience. Having to fight against my wife to encourage every step of their growth towards independence and personal responsibility isn’t exactly helping me cope with how little I get to see them these days.
My life-goal I set for myself in 4th grade was “be a better father than my dad or step-father”. Life handed my wife and I twins, right off the bat, and our second son less than two years later. I made more money and worked far fewer hours, so suffice to say I changed thousands of daipers and mixed/warmed sooo much formula.
Somehow, my wife and I did far less partying after she got a better job and the kids were in school, and she locked in on the idea of your comment versus any adult life outside of work and chores like some sort of core belief.
End of the day, I realized I had set and basically stepped ON(as opposed to having to jump over) an incredibly low bar for myself, and it was more like my life began when I had cleared it, but “raising a family” has been a surprisingly lonely experience. Having to fight against my wife to encourage every step of their growth towards independence and personal responsibility isn’t exactly helping me cope with how little I get to see them these days.