Has the system finally cracked? Have the wealthy and powerful simply taken so much leaving the rest of us grasping at our very survival, easily manipulated into turning against other groups and even each other in an attempt to make sense of it all? Is society destined to destroy itself or descend into eternal servitude to our masters? How do we get out of this spiral of madness?
Ah yes, walk it off. Very helpful. Do you think real issues don’t exist? Especially in the US now?
“If you feel like shit, just grind bro”. Doing what, exactly? Lots of options are oversaturated or having layoffs. Rent is a racket and there are people who work full-time “essential” jobs (like professors and nurses) living in their car. I cannot even afford nor do I want a car, and if I was living outside where I’m at I’d be at risk for heat stroke because my body cannot sweat enough for even mild heat. Also, I am nearly nowhere.
I can prepare and sauté vegetables, sweep, carry things, do various computer things. Is that enough to live off of? Even at my best, probably not! Could I maybe work something out with people? I’m a shut-in with the social skills of a rock, so that’s not likely either. EDIT: forgot to say bike riding, but again that’s also difficult with heat
Have I already lost? Yeah maybe, but the issues (both internal and external) are more than excuses. It if got me out of here I’d be a shitty cook on a boat (I also probably can’t swim, no ID/passport) but it doesn’t work like that anymore. Solo projects and crowd-funding are just as delusional.
You’ve been dealt a really rough hand. The way it should work is that your community would see that you mean well and want to contribute, and support an ongoing effort to make that happen.
We don’t live in the world of should, but imo you do need a community of any kind. I don’t think I’m exaggerating when I say it should be your top priority to make at least one IRL friend and making the absolute most of it. They don’t have to be perfect, but they do have to reciprocate the friendship.
Once you have one, it’s easier to make more. Everything is easier with a community. Keep a journal, write about your efforts, write about the people you might try to talk to. Try anything. There’s a loneliness epidemic out there, so chances are good there are people just like you who are waiting for someone to make the first move. I hope you find each other.
And there we have it. The predicted list of excuses.
Can you not see how making excuses is no way to live the one life you’ll ever get?! Can you imagine a counselor saying, yeah, that’s normal, you should probably give up and die, soonest best?!
I’ve had a lot going both for me and against me in this life. But I never fucking said “can’t”. I’ve lost much, won much, but I’ve never rolled up in a ball and cried that I was helpless. Your attitude is so self-defeating it makes me sad. You need counseling and don’t seem to know it.
I do what I can, I have my ups and downs too. You did better, good for you… maybe if we swapped you could fix my life, or maybe it’s just an anecdote and there is no way to tell.
Yeah, I know I need a lot of things (including healthcare and therapy) but healthcare is a mess here especially rural and if I could use any programs now (especially with waiting lists etc) I expect said access will be cut before needed follow-ups are done.
You can pin the blame on mentality all you like, but it doesn’t make the country any less of multiple unmitigated disasters.
What a mess, I’m sorry. Can I just say that guy doesn’t speak for me? Let me know if you’re not sick of the conversation.
Go for it if you want, especially if it’s (mostly) in-reply to my higher-level comment.
In hindsight I guess I should’ve depersonalized my comment more or just abstracted it completely (yeah that is the dream or something).