Fair - but you get what I mean? Society, and I feel like you see this in TV/movies a lot, but they put some kind of halo on “being a parent”. It’s significant for sure, but it’s a huge responsibility. Out of all the things people could be doing, I just don’t get it. It can be rewarding I’m sure, but in these times, I don’t get it. Idk I just see it a irresponsible with how everything is rn. Just my take…
My life-goal I set for myself in 4th grade was “be a better father than my dad or step-father”. Life handed my wife and I twins, right off the bat, and our second son less than two years later. I made more money and worked far fewer hours, so suffice to say I changed thousands of daipers and mixed/warmed sooo much formula.
Somehow, my wife and I did far less partying after she got a better job and the kids were in school, and she locked in on the idea of your comment versus any adult life outside of work and chores like some sort of core belief.
End of the day, I realized I had set and basically stepped ON(as opposed to having to jump over) an incredibly low bar for myself, and it was more like my life began when I had cleared it, but “raising a family” has been a surprisingly lonely experience. Having to fight against my wife to encourage every step of their growth towards independence and personal responsibility isn’t exactly helping me cope with how little I get to see them these days.
I have always found it strange how having kids is considered a milestone to achieve in life. I don’t get it.
I mean, your life after and before cannot be compared, so it is a milestone
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I always found it strange how <insert random thing I don’t care about here> is considered a milestone to achieve in life. I don’t get it.
Fair - but you get what I mean? Society, and I feel like you see this in TV/movies a lot, but they put some kind of halo on “being a parent”. It’s significant for sure, but it’s a huge responsibility. Out of all the things people could be doing, I just don’t get it. It can be rewarding I’m sure, but in these times, I don’t get it. Idk I just see it a irresponsible with how everything is rn. Just my take…
It’s spelled ‘millstone’.
because when you have kids your life is over
My life-goal I set for myself in 4th grade was “be a better father than my dad or step-father”. Life handed my wife and I twins, right off the bat, and our second son less than two years later. I made more money and worked far fewer hours, so suffice to say I changed thousands of daipers and mixed/warmed sooo much formula.
Somehow, my wife and I did far less partying after she got a better job and the kids were in school, and she locked in on the idea of your comment versus any adult life outside of work and chores like some sort of core belief.
End of the day, I realized I had set and basically stepped ON(as opposed to having to jump over) an incredibly low bar for myself, and it was more like my life began when I had cleared it, but “raising a family” has been a surprisingly lonely experience. Having to fight against my wife to encourage every step of their growth towards independence and personal responsibility isn’t exactly helping me cope with how little I get to see them these days.