I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me
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This was reported twice for not being a shower thought. The reporters are correct, it’s not strictly a shower thought.
But thinking about getting older is something we all do in the shower, for multiple reasons :)
Looks like people are mostly enjoying it so I’ll let it stay for now.
thank you moderator
Thinks about 18 year olds in the shower
Mods get them!
I think that’s legal… Barely
It IS legal.
pick up the “analogue bag” trend. none of us older than you approve of the internet today: we had a different place to grow up in online. you will be the happiest and most hopeful person around- others will remember your calm and seek you for comfort.
stop using AI. period. your brain is developing, let it suffer the growing pains of wondering what to draw; of which source of knowledge learn from; how to compose your thoughts. you will be the most intelligent person around- ever increasingly so as years go by.
age old traps checklist: status, whoevers the most popular that moment, flips on the head as you grow up… everyone will Hate how the most popular person behaves now in a few years. be humble if you’re the popular one. at the sane time enjoy yourself: if you wanna indulge, indulge. saying stupid things from your heart is indulging. listening more than you speak is humble. that’s the secret to popularity that lasts beyond school years.
hug all around you. say hi to everyone around you, even those you don’t feel are cool- that you’d get bullied for associating with. that’s all we adults are doing: catching up on hugs and greetings, because it helps our mood and makes us feel meaningful wherever we have to be.
learn an instrument, or an art, or a craft, or a sport.
say no to drugs. period. your brain and body are fully developed when you are 26. then you don’t get as addicted and have an easer time finding a balance between partying and cozying up intimately in a couch. statistically you’ll end up regretful if not abusing drugs or being abused while doing drugs below 26 years old. i can attest. drugs don’t fix problems. they hide and let problems infect other parts of your life.
say no to sex that makes you feel pressured. as a guy i got status from chasing sex at your age, but if fucked me up to only be liked for being attractive. friends who cuddle are more important than acquaintances who fuck. one validates you as a human being and makes you feel seen. the other hollows you out while forcing you to become a person for the sake of others to feel seen.
be outdoors. pet animals. eat vegetables. drink water, not soda. drop food additives like “flavour enhancers” (e621) and aromas (vanilla aroma is made of literal cowdung and fossil fuels.) companies are not your friends: you’re as cattle to the companies, so yeet their brands. wear natural fibres and what you like.
welp i have more but idk if you’d read all
i have read it all. it was nice. thank you
Always double-check. For example, the community you are posting in.
Measure twice, post once!
Everybody else is just faking it, too.
And everyone is trying to muddle through, including your heroes. I think it’s good to keep this in mind; both to avoid feeling inferior for not having your shit figured out (because nobody has) and to be tolerant of people making mistakes – nobody’s perfect and everyone has issues besides getting your order exactly right.
Be chill with yourself and with other people.
Non withstanding there can be fundamental differences which no one tells you about (like neurodivergency) so if something feels very off, it might be.
Don’t drink and smoke.
Don’t put your dick in crazy
Learn to shop, cook and eat without highly procesed foods
Clean the toilet when you are done
i fear from stove but gonna learn it
Adding to this:
Save as much as you can. One day, you’ll need it.
Take care of your teeth. It’s the only set you get, and it sucks when you start having problem.
Drink water. Lots. You do not want to experience a kidney stone.
Save as much as you can… but don’t skimp out on quality of life.
Too many people I’ve see pinch pennies to save only to end up dead or in a place that couldn’t enjoy it. Make sure to take time out for yourself while you can before it’s too late
Basically mine would be “all things in moderation”
Obviously, making time for yourself is a good thing. If you’re miserable, there isn’t much point!
I guess this is more a consequence of my living in a very consumer-oriented society that the importance of saving is so prevalent. Plenty of fun can be had for little to no money.
Take care of your back and knees too. You really don’t want to fuck those up because they will be lifelong pain if you do.
Don’t drink and smoke.
Don’t put your dick in crazy
I mean, I agree, but I think it’s more fun to find this out for yourself.
Use sunscreen.
Brush your teeth and see the dentist at least yearly.
Just post the song for him.
Stop reading beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Buy a plunger BEFORE you need one
On a related note, own a fire extinguisher before you need one.
Also learn how to use both before you need to.
In a similar vein:
Get a fire ladder if you’re not living on the first floor
But seriously, learning to use a fire extinguisher needs to be emphasized more. I stopped a fire from becoming serious because I was trained to use a fire extinguisher and I put out the fire quickly. My partner didn’t know what to do and she just handed the fire extinguisher to me. If she were there alone, the building could have burnt down. Or at minimum, all of our possessions could have been damaged.
It’s easy to learn, but YOU NEED TO LEARN
Don’t do drugs. But if you’re going to do drugs avoid anything you have to inject with needles. There are plenty of fun things you can smoke, eat or snort.
I was told on my way to college to stick to natural stuff, and only with people I absolutely trust. I know there are plenty of natural drugs that can kill you quickly, dad was just trying to make it easy. I guess he figured I’d never see shrooms. At an A&M school. Surrounded by cow pastures. Anywho…
In my youth I thought I was old enough to try some stuff. I was not. Now that I’m older, I still think lots of drugs should be legalized, but I think 25 is maybe a good age. Let the brain finish developing before you start killing off the slow cells!
Don’t do opiates or meth. You can smoke and snort those but the addictive potential is too damn high. There are other much more fun cheaper drugs.
Yeah, very few people can do opiates recreationally without addiction. Same goes for tobacco. Meth will fuck you one way or another (if you have adhd it may help while being a rough version of the treatment and basically guaranteeing you can’t get the helpful stuff if a doctor finds out).
Stimulants don’t make you smarter, but they do make you more confident, this is a dangerous combination.
Research every drug before you put it in your body, know the risks and be comfortable with them. And check drug interactions online with every recreational drug you’re taking with each other and with your prescriptions. Lots of drugs have interactions both positive and negative with each other and while sometimes that’s a uniquely good time or a particular perspective, more often than you think there’s a risk of serotonin sickness
Unless your speed or skag are prescribed, and even then, take as little as possible to make you comfortable. Never up your dose, not even once, without checking in with a professional first.
Don’t take advice from people on the internet.
well you guys gave best advice and I got shitty advices offline not gonna reveal what i got
Don’t listen to this person, they are on the Internet.
And they can’t even spell.
Don’t smell people on the internet?
Upload posts to appropriate communities.
Strengthen your core. Lower back pain in your mid-30s is a bitch. Also, take care of your teeth and floss everyday. Start investing early. Any amount you can set aside, no matter how small, will payoff if you start early.
yeah lower back pain really sucks and i used to have it a lot some weeks ago
Live below your means.
Practice your hobbies, I didnt start taking photos or playing guitar until I was 21, I’m pretty good now, good enough to find enjoyment in them
learn a language?
oh and also, therapy
therapy is expensive
Yeah, never feel like it’s too late to start something. There’s stuff (learning an instrument, language, craft stuff) I considered getting into in my 30s but felt like it was too late. Now I’m 40 and I’ve started and I wish I’d done it ten years ago, because I’d be so much further ahead.
Wear condoms every time
Also it’s okay to not know exactly what you are gonna do with your life. No one else actually does either, as much as they think they might.
Let go of any fear of others expectations for you as soon as you can. Explore what interests you and don’t let others stop you. People come and go, but they’ll come to you faster than they leave if you’re a confident and passionate person. You can only be that if you work on figuring out how you want to live and chase that life.
