• gmtom@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    Nah but for real if some random stranger at a bar overheard me saying I’m single and then came up to me and my friends like that I would be a little creeped out too.

    I wouldn’t be mean about it, but I definitely wouldn’t say yes.

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      15 hours ago

      This is definitely one of those ‘creepy if ugly’ moments. If he was a handsome guy, it would be romantic and has almost definitely happened in a million Hallmark movies.

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        5 hours ago

        You are probably not wrong, super attractive people can get away with cringy things. Wouldn’t be a good strategy for an average looking person, however.

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        10 hours ago

        Listening in on conversations is creepy, no matter how good-looking a person is.

        And that stuff happens in movies doesn’t mean it isn’t creepy in real-life.

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        9 hours ago

        Handsome/Ugly is in the eye of the person, remember. Just because one person found you not attractive, doesn’t mean they all do.

        Fuck Hallmark movies, Don’t make me vomit

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          8 hours ago

          Of course everyone is entitled to have their own opinion of what is beautiful. But there are some pretty obvious statistical convergences.

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            3 hours ago

            Sure, but personally, I don’t give a fuck about that. I don’t find conventionally attractive people, good looking. They don’t do it for me. And If I, just one person feels this way, and I’ve met other’s like this too, there must be more.

            Just tryin to put that beacon of hope out.

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              1 hour ago

              Sure. But I think it is better to set realistic expectations. After all, it you don’t expect much, then you won’t feel so bad when it doesn’t manifest. With false hope, you are crushed each time your hopes don’t meet reality. In the long run, realistic expectations serve us better because we can see how our efforts lead us to the results we desire.

              This isn’t to say that conventionally unattractive people should give up all hope and dispair. It just means they should temper their expectations relative to their more attractive counterparts, and should focus on things which are within their circle of control, like fitness, grooming, style, lifestyle, mindset, and number of people talked to.

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        7 hours ago

        It’s not so much creepy if ugly, so much as creepy if not confident.

        And the way to become confident in something is to do it a bunch of times.

        Lesson being, it’s okay if someone thinks you’re creepy. You’re just in the process of developing a new skill.